I was, once again, at a complete loss as to what to read next. I read too fast and sometimes it’s a problem. A friend of mine said that I should check out this Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy. I grabbed the books and started to read them. Three days later, I was finished and thinking about the ideas, the plot, and the overall feel of the books. As someone who has had many dealings with BDSM and the community in which it lives, breathes, and thrives, I found that I was sort of annoyed with some of the ideas presented in these books. Some of us have jokes about “internet dominants” and the character of Christian Grey initially struck me as one. Continue reading
Category Archives: Sexuality
A Few Comments on Why Feminism is the Anti-Viagra
I read this article on Psychology Today’s website called “Why Feminism is the Anti-Viagra“. Then I read a bunch of blog posts commenting on this blog and… was astonished by the amount of so called feminists confusing sexual dominance/submission and social dominance/submission. The two certainly can go together, but they are slightly different things. Continue reading
Abstinence Only “Education” Doesn’t Work Now – and it Never Will
This article caught my eye as most do with the words “rexamine”, “rethink”, and “study the effects of” in the title in conjunction with “Abstinence Only”. Continue reading
Abhorrence Toward Homosexuality is a Relatively New Idea
In light of the recent tug-o-war between Truth Wins Out (an organization to help the world understand that homosexuality just… is and to help them “get over it”) over an Apple iPhone app. Continue reading
Did I Miss a Meeting on Fetishes at Some Point?
It is possible that I take things too literally. I know I see a lot of things as black & white with zero chance of grey. People like to tack on irrelevancies disguised as padding to make themselves feel better about any given situation, but there is always an underlying simplicity to everything – it’s not my problem if they can’t admit it. Continue reading
An Actual Favourable Outlook on BDSM
I came across this article this morning while perusing the news and I was impressed with its mostly correct facts about what BDSM is, how most practitioners are very careful about what each party involved is consenting to, and so on. Continue reading
Northwestern University Getting More Guff
So, maybe I’m a little confused about what, exactly, a human sexuality class is and what should and shouldn’t be taught in one. According to this little story, human sexuality classes should teach: Continue reading
BDSM and “Slavery” – Why it Isn’t the Same as Traditional Slavery
The idea of a sexual slave generally brings the idea of people being bought and sold for menial tasks to the minds of most people outside the community. Thoughts of “subhumans” abound, thoughts of any sort of non-consensual use, thoughts of inhumane treatment, and so on. Continue reading
Live Sex Show at Northwestern University!
I like reading news about BDSM and fetish incidents because they usually bring out all sorts of wackos (and I don’t mean the people into the BDSM and fetishes, either).
This one, for instance, is about the noncredit, optional segment Professor John Michael Bailey arranged for following his regular Human Sexuality class. What started out as a question and answer period for students to ask members of the BDSM and fetish community turned into a demonstration on orgasms and toy usage – a live one. Continue reading
Hugh Hefner: Playboy, Activist and Rebel
We sat watching this last night and I was struck, for about the millionth time, at just how much I admire Hugh Hefner. That is probably a very strange thing coming from a woman who’s never entertained the idea of posing in a magazine such as Playboy (even if I had the physique for it). Continue reading